As someone inside the tech industry, I absolutely agree.
The problem is that new startups often don't have options here. Unless you're in a market where VCs are shy about funding new companies, if you don't take the VC cash and go into high-growth mode, someone else will, and they'll end up out-competing you, at least in the short term. (Long enough that you won't be able to remain solvent, at least.) So you either fail, or take the money and often get into a situation of doing not-particularly-sustainable things.
The problem is that new startups often don't have options here. Unless you're in a market where VCs are shy about funding new companies, if you don't take the VC cash and go into high-growth mode, someone else will, and they'll end up out-competing you, at least in the short term. (Long enough that you won't be able to remain solvent, at least.) So you either fail, or take the money and often get into a situation of doing not-particularly-sustainable things.