I argued with someone who socialized with people in seminars. Those are not monks. Priests are not monks either. There is also difference between monk and brother, nun and sister.

What you are saying is that cloistered somehow don't count. Maybe you was in freest order there is, but the rest of them count too.

You also argue absurdly aggressive and arrogant way for a monk.

You are not the only ex-monk out there and in fact, ex-monks or those who gave that up during formation do talk about these rules.