Or it's just one of you is "an organizer" and the other isn't.
In my own friendships, in my current setup, I rarely the one who initiates. That was different decades ago but it's how it is at the moment.
My friends do all the inviting and I just show up (show up online this last year).
Further, some people just act as the magnet everyone follows. No idea why but they are. So for example another group, out of ~12 people it's only 1 or 2 of them that organizes most meetups. Same with another group.
To me this is a skill thing. Some people are skilled at cooking, some people are skilled at programming, some people are skilled at reaching out to others.
In my own friendships, in my current setup, I rarely the one who initiates. That was different decades ago but it's how it is at the moment.
My friends do all the inviting and I just show up (show up online this last year).
Further, some people just act as the magnet everyone follows. No idea why but they are. So for example another group, out of ~12 people it's only 1 or 2 of them that organizes most meetups. Same with another group.
To me this is a skill thing. Some people are skilled at cooking, some people are skilled at programming, some people are skilled at reaching out to others.